first_imgOn the eve of tomorrow’s Marriage Equality referendum, a single mum from Donegal has pleaded for an end to the insults and bitterness of the campaign.Donegal will vote tomorrow (Fri).Mired said that many members of her own family are voting in an opposite way to her but they have not fallen out.She has called for an end to the “hate filled comments” and for people to simply respect one another’s views. This is the full text of her email to Donegal Daily. I’ve been watching with interest, the goings-on surrounding the gay marriage issue. I have to say that I am terribly saddened by the angry, horrible, hate filled comments that I have been seeing on social media.It’s awful that strangers can verbally attack and accuse each other of all sorts of vile things, just because they have differing opinions. Where is the equality, democracy or freedom of speech in that? All I see is hate! Hearts full of hate! Where is the basic human respect? And I’m not talking about any one side in particular. I have seen nasty comments from both sides!I personally am voting NO in the referendum tomorrow. It is up to everyone else how they vote! I am voting no, not because I am anti – gay, but because I don’t want marriage to be redefined. I have relatives and friends who are gay and I have the utmost respect for them. My choice to vote no is not about being pro or anti gay. For me, it is about protecting Family and children. As a single mother I see the gap left in the lives of my children by the absence of their father. I see with all clarity, the hurt and damage that has been done to them. I believe that changing marriage will cause much more damage to future generations of children.I have been trying to imagine what it would be like to be a child who was born through surrogacy. How would I feel? Personally, I would feel rejected by my mother. I wouldn’t be able to understand how my mother could just give me away like that and want to have no contact with me – and all for MONEY!Could you imagine a teenager, starting to question their roots? It would be terrible. I just can’t vote for this. And from my experience as a single mum, I see that there are things that only a father could give to my children. They have no male role model in their lives and I wonder how this will impact on their future relationships.And I had to ask myself if I vote yes, will this change the lives of my gay comrades for the better, and I have come to the conclusion that life will not be any different for them after the referendum than it is now.Legally, they already can say ‘I do’, adopt children and claim the same tax breaks as married couples. I know from following this, that they want constitutional protection, which is fine. But what I can’t figure out is why they can’t do this without changing ‘marriage’ in the constitution? And funnily enough, in the course of my seeking the right course of action, I have discovered that I and my two children are not constitutionally considered to be a family and we have no protection constitutionally. I wonder would as many people stand up to fight for me and other single parent families to be recognised ‘constitutionally’ as a family!Where does it all end?It would be great if we could get through this referendum without any more insults and hate. Respect that we all view things differently. Some members of my family are voting no and some yes and none of us are tearing strips off each other about it.Mairead MARRIAGE EQUALITY REFERENDUM: SINGLE MUM PLEADS FOR END TO HATE-FILLED COMMENTS was last modified: May 21st, 2015 by StephenShare this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Telegram (Opens in new window)Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)Click to share on Skype (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window)Tags:CAMPIAGNdonegalMARRIAGE EQUALITY REFERENDUMvotinglast_img read more